Posted by rskontos on February 17, 2008, at 8:10:09
In reply to Re: Took A Risk And Got Burned :( Poss triggerslon » rskontos, posted by gardenergirl on February 16, 2008, at 13:24:07
Oh gosh, that sounds simply awful. It does sound like your sister has a lot of stuff she feels strongly about, and that she slung as much of it as she could at you. I'm sorry for that. From what you describe, it sounds like you handled it rather well, which can be hard, I know, when the accusations come flying. And while whether she's worth crying over is debatable, if you're hurting, that hurt is worth crying about. It's a loss, and probably a fresh loss to some extent, as you tried and she didn't reach back to your hand.
I'm sorry.
GG, at first I thought based on what my BIL said she was over everything and she just did not want or need me in her life. I did not really know why she thought I done anything to her. When she cut her family out of her life, she did the whole family not just our parents. She cut my sister and I both as well. Now after talking to her I realize that somehow I became to blame for what happened to her as well. That even though I am only a scare 2 year older, 22 months to be exact, I was to protect her. Never mind I had no protection. In her mind, my mother did nothing to me, all to her. My father did nothing to me only to her. She sees that because she cut them out of her life and we did not then we had them she did not and therefore, she WORSE off. She refuses to see that the damage was already done as small children through our teenage years and that cutting them off when you move out did not erase the damage. It only buried it. I saw she had buried it. So I tried to retreat and allow her to stay in the place she is in. I do know that I am to her a reminder that although she is telling her DH she wants to move on this may or may not be a reality.
I still can't cry it just won't come.
Thanks so much for your reply.
It means a great deal to me.:)
rsk
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