Posted by annierose on February 16, 2008, at 5:21:02
In reply to Re: Took A Risk And Got Burned :( Poss triggerslon, posted by rskontos on February 16, 2008, at 2:14:02
I don't think you need to blame your p-doc. He just asked a question.
Sibling relationships can be difficult. I obviously don't know your sister or why she is so angry with her family of origin, or the tone she was using, but from how you wrote the story, it sounded like she just wanted to be heard. Yes, she said hurtful things and was angry. You were listening and that is good. Sometimes the hurt sibling just needs to say all those things that have been building up inside for all those years.
I have a sister that is angry with the family too. I am the only one right now that she will talk to. I find the best approach is just to listen and comment very little. Think of how your therapist talks with you. I say things like, "I can see how much you're hurting," "I want you to know everyone loves you," etc. I don't assess blame.
When your sister started throwing garbage your way, the therapy and/or medication "card", that tells you how hurt she feels. It's less about you and more about her. Does that make any sense?
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