Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2008, at 0:21:25
In reply to Re: Took A Risk And Got Burned RSK » Dinah, posted by rskontos on February 23, 2008, at 23:13:30
I'm sorry you're having a hard time.
There is a dialog going at least. It's rocky right now and you might both have to go slow. But there is something to build on.
Would it be possible to agree with her to keep it more superficial for a while? My brother and I delve into childhood things only occasionally, and talk about more current events more often. And that not all that deeply.
You're just getting to know each other again. Maybe it follows the same track as getting to know anyone. Starting light and not deepening till later?
I don't know if it's possible. It's just what I try to do with my own sibling. I know I keep my guard up a bit, and I'm sure he does. But we start with polite and see where it goes from there. Then we might have to withdraw for a bit before tentatively reaching out again.
But please do take care of yourself and don't do anything that makes you feel unsafe.
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