Posted by DAisym on February 14, 2008, at 17:56:20
In reply to Re: Therapist Speak » Daisym, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2008, at 9:43:40
It is hard, isn't it? I want to be the perfect therapy client and not frustrate my therapist. But I also need to be honest about what I want. And sometimes the words are just stuck - my brain refuses to make sentences.
I haven't asked very often for him to just say, "things are going to be OK." Because he always seems to need to add "that is my hope or belief" - he qualifies it in some way. Of course I've been known to come back with "you don't know that for sure!" or "you don't know how hard this is!" so I think I've trained him to qualify things. But he has a great way of pointing out other times that have been hard and how we've worked through those together. I like it when he uses "we" - "we've been here before, we'll get through it."
And I did tell him what you wrote - "just because I can't take it in right now doesn't mean it isn't helping." He said he knew that, he just wanted to give me space to feel bad too. They can't win, can they?
As far as having fun, my younger parts really want caring and nurturing. The adult appreciates the humor more. I often bring him comics or funny cards and he makes lots of jokes. And he has a wicked wit - irreverent but hilarious. I think I've told you before he is Jewish - and I'm Catholic, so there are lots of quips between us about converting, guilt, mothers, etc. I love that about him and the fact that one of his favorite things to say is "F-that! Whatever works." It is so -- non-therapy-speak. :)
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