Posted by Daisym on November 22, 2007, at 1:33:18
In reply to this has been coming on for a couple days now, posted by llurpsienoodle on November 21, 2007, at 22:05:22
I know I won't be the only person to say this -- but I felt exactly the same way about all of this when I started therapy. And even almost a year into it. But when it gets this huge...this painful...it has to come out. Think of it as poisen that needs to be released from your system. I try very hard to lump all the stuff that happened into a large, "I was abused" category. But there are certain things, certain stories that need to be told on their own and I have to figure out how to accept them as my history and not let them devastate me. I can't do it alone.
Telling someone else -- actually saying the words -- makes it that much more real. But it helps to not be alone with it. It helps to have someone hear you, believe you and remind you that it isn't your fault. The shame involved isn't yours, even though I know you feel like it is. It belongs to the person who hurt you. It belongs to your dad.
Keeping the secret means you are still being controlled by it. No matter what it is, your therapist can handle it. He has shown himself steady and trustworthy. So when it gets overwhelming, let him help you.
I'm sorry things are so hard right now.
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