Posted by RealMe on October 20, 2007, at 11:16:53
In reply to Re: I'm a snuggler -- but don't touch me..., posted by rskontos on October 18, 2007, at 13:12:51
This is a very difficult topic for me as I have recently longed for cuddling and holding hands. My husband is one of those who never liked to hold hands.
Then there are the times when I feel like don't touch me, and so it got me to thinking. Don't touch me means I don't trust you and what you might do to me, and so I can see how it could be confusing to my husband. Sometimes touch, and sometimes don't touch.
Sometimes my T gets too close to me when I am leaving therapy and he is opening the door. Then other times I wish I could get a hug. The damn CSA really messes with me, and I am trying to deal with all this as are others. Right now I am more in touch with the sense of feeling so lonely and alone as a child and later, no one to turn to except you know who. Sex and hugs got so mixed up. All I can say for now. I hate being in touch with the sense of aloneness, not emptiness, just aloneness even around people.
RealMe
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