Posted by DAisym on October 19, 2007, at 14:49:55
In reply to Touch maybe csa trigger**, posted by antigua3 on October 19, 2007, at 8:51:10
I'm in the "don't pull my hair -ever!" crowd. My children learned as infants to not grab handfuls of hair. I'm guessing it was the look on my face.
But I think I'd like someone brushing my hair. I love having it washed by the person who cuts it - but she is really safe. I'll have to think about this more.
I think the hair pulling aversion came from the same place, antigua. It was part of the physical violence and I remember being desperate for short hair. My mom would sit every Sunday and comb out the snarls. It was torture and I wasn't allowed to cry - "If you'd take care of your hair, I wouldn't have to do this..." Makes me shudder to think about it. It was finally cut short in first grade.
I'll keep thinking about massages. It is another thing I feel like I'm broken around. For now, I'll keep using Racer's suggestion of feline massage. You put them on your lap, feel their warmth and their weight and they purr and everyone is happy.
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