Posted by RealMe on October 12, 2007, at 21:19:25
In reply to Pushing and Pulling again, posted by DAisym on October 12, 2007, at 13:41:52
Well a couple of thoughts. If you abandon him first, then he can't abandon you.
The other is one I struggle with; I get angry and push my T away as I am scared of the closeness. I could get really hurt.
Today my T noted that I haven't been angry with him lately, and I agreed and said I am more sad now. He wonders if I am more comfortable with him, and I said yes, and so now I am more in touch with the sadness and loneliness of when I was younger and later too.
Here is something my T said to me today that sort of fits. He knows the pushing away is not gone for good. I know it too. When I was in therapy years ago, I tjhere was the push and pull. Now I just push when I get scare, and when I am there with him, I am sad. So what the hell, pushing awsy sometimes is eaier, but as you know, afterwards you feel like sh*t for cutting off your nose to spite your face. T will understand as you know.
RealMe
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