Posted by antigua on April 8, 2007, at 20:41:56
In reply to Sincere apologies 4 causing distress 2 all of you, posted by Scentedgarden on April 8, 2007, at 18:39:13
Hi,
I went through a phase with my T, where I would hit her hard, and often, and not so nicely, with "it's just your job, you don't really care."For me, and I'm only saying me, it took me a while to figure out that this was a defense mechanism I was using from letting her in. I didn't (and I still don't to some extent) realize how hurtful this was to her until she explained. Just shutting her out when we have been working so closely together for so long, why would I do that? I know it's just her job, but our relationship is so much more than that. I have a real problem with this, as I said I use it shut her out. But this is only me, it's like the ultimate depersonalization I can use on her. "You don't really care, it's just your job."
Sorry, I'm rambling, too much food today. Just wanted to say that I understand your feeling, but maybe there's something behind it too.
antigua
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