Posted by frida on April 8, 2007, at 19:18:51
In reply to Sincere apologies 4 causing distress 2 all of you, posted by Scentedgarden on April 8, 2007, at 18:39:13
hi,
it truly is ok, it is okay that you expressed your thoughts and feelings and I hear how hurt you are.I am just so sorry you feel this way.
I just don't agree with "it's just her job"...
and I don't think a lot of people are "obsessed" with their therapists..
I am just sad for you that you feel it this way.It's a hard topic..
but in my personal case, (as i know many others feel), I love my T deeply, as a mother...(I was abused as a child by my father). She has given me the kind of acceptance, love, safety and caring I had never received.
And she's reassured me our relationship is real, and the love we feel *is* mutual, even though her role is to help me and guide me through this.
I know she thinks of me outside sessions, because she cares...she often comes and tells me she has watched a movie, or read a book, or listened to something that made her think of me, she tells me that seeing 7year old children sometimes moves her because she sees me in them and all the pain I still hide inside from that part of me, she reads my letters, watches a movie that I tell her or reads a book if I tell her it was important to me...and this she does outside our T time.If it weren't for the T relationship and her love and caring, I would have just given up. It has sustained me. She's given me safety.
That is the point for me....it is really life-changing for me and being able to receive unconditional love without having to get hurt and being able to trust someone after your trust has been shattered in such a horrible way, it is really deep.
I am sorry your T has let you down in a way. I'm sorry you feel this way.
Happy easter to you too :-)
love,
Frida
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