Posted by Daisym on April 9, 2007, at 1:23:32
In reply to Re: Thanks but pls dont be sad for me...It's kool okay » Scentedgarden, posted by pegasus on April 9, 2007, at 0:05:46
I think there are some very good reasons to express any and all feelings that are called up during therapy. First is to know that there is a wide range of feelings a person can have towards another person and this is normal. Sometimes we love and sometimes we hate. It is also to learn how to express our feelings - to practice the vocabulary of feelings. And by expressing our feelings, we can learn how to handle them, instead of ignoring them. I don't think you can get help sorting out your feelings if you don't talk about them.
Specifically about loving feelings -- I think being able to tell someone such a wonderful thing and not have them run screaming out of the room is a way to learn that it is Ok to have these feelings for someone. In the safety of a therapy relationship, we can figure out why we love them, what love means to us and how we feel inside when we label it love. It is a place to be able to dissect the feeling, if we want to. For some of us, it might be the first time we feel deeply for someone who won't exploit those feelings.
For me, it was discovering that I could feel love and want to tell the person about my feelings. I never thought that would happen to me.
The point of expressing love in therapy is not, for me, any expectation that my love would be returned. I did it because I wanted to and it felt better to express it than repress it.
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