Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 10:47:04
In reply to Transference in real life, posted by allisonf on February 5, 2007, at 19:01:30
I haven't had time to look at this entire thread, but my take on it is that what we call transference in therapy happens all the time in the rest of our lives. That's why it's helpful in therapy.
While my transference with my therapist is largely maternal, other dynamics flow in from time to time, and in therapy I get a chance to look at them in a way I don't have the luxury of doing IRL.
I can't say it's stopped my falling into old patterns, but what it has done is let me catch myself when I do it and acknowledge it. For me that's enormously helpful. I may decide to continue in any given relationship exactly how I ordinarily would, but with added awareness of how I'm behaving and reacting, and what I'm likely to find fulfilling and frustrating.
poster:Dinah
thread:730129
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