Posted by cubic_me on February 8, 2007, at 9:57:32
In reply to Re: Transference in real life » cubic_me, posted by allisonf on February 7, 2007, at 17:02:47
> I think it's amazing that you are able to distance yourself from these people when it happens. Does that help to get rid of the feelings or is it still just as difficult?
It's not a skill I used to have! I used to be just like you, and have fantasies etc. TBH it's easier now, because my tutors change every 4weeks, so I've got less time to get attached! I can't really distance myself emotionally, so I have to do it physically, by recognising it's starting to happen and just 'not going there' and not creating any situations that would make me be near/in contact with them. I spend a lot of time telling myself they're just a normal, average person, and there's nothing special about them, which seems to help me stop idolising them too.
>Also, that's interesting that you've never talked about it in therapy. Have you talked to your therapist about your transference for him/her?
No, I didn't (when I did have transference, with my first therapist). I've only been with my current T for a month, and our relationship seems to be more 'normal' (code for less transference!!!) so far.
>I can't say that talking about it (esp when you have an idea of where it is coming from--the "mothering" problem) really helps that much. It feels more like my T is just this voice of reality but I can't really process what she says.
I can see that, and I think that's what I'm worried about really - that it'll take a lot of effort to talk about it, and it won't really help much.
> Good luck things and thanks for your post.
> AllisonYou too! Cubic_me
poster:cubic_me
thread:730129
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20070203/msgs/731074.html