Posted by allisonf on February 6, 2007, at 19:36:43
In reply to Re: Transference in real life » allisonf, posted by happykat on February 6, 2007, at 13:10:33
Hi happykat,
Thanks for your message. That's interesting to hear that you have the same problem--the crushes on bosses and teachers, etc. I thought if I could work thru the transference with my T that it would all resolve itself. Only recently my T has said, it is probably a problem I will have to deal with all my life , that I will have to navigate thru these waters time and again. I just hope I can keep my wits about me, esp with this coffee with my professor coming up!The transference with my T started soon after I started seeing her in 2001. I had an emotional breakdown at the time and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I think it started as feelings of gratitude that grew into romantic feelings and feelings of love and friendship. My T has always been very clear about the boundaries, tho she has self disclosed and been very warm with me--she strikes this amazing balance. I suppose I have been working on the transference with her all this time, tho I will say in the last year or so, it seems to have gotten somewhat easier. I'm not sure why. Now the energy is back but focused on the professor. My relationship with my T is really very good. We have been thru a lot together and I feel a mutual closeness with her even tho there is a lot she keeps from me (appropriately so).
How long have you been in therapy? How long have you had the transference feelings? Have you always had issues with other people all your life? I had my first teacher crush when I was 12 and it has been on and off ever since.
Thanks again for your message!
Best--
allison
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