Posted by happykat on February 6, 2007, at 13:10:33
In reply to Transference in real life, posted by allisonf on February 5, 2007, at 19:01:30
allisonf,
I've recently been working on transference issues in therapy. And I can tell you I have a long standing pattern of developing crushes on professors, bosses, etc. I'm assuming this somehow relates to my childhood, though I've just begun hashing it all out.
If you don't mind my asking, how is your relationship with your t now? How long have you been working on the transference with her?
This whole transference thing is very difficult. I was hoping that if I worked it through with my therapist then I wouldn't have that reaction with professors, bosses, etc.. Maybe it just takes awhile to work it all out? I dunno?
I think what your t said about staying away might be good advice. Otherwise it sounds like you're setting yourself up for disappointment or potentially going down a path you might later regret. Unless you think you can just be friends. Tough call.
Good luck with your dilemna.
Regards,
happykat
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