Posted by allisonf on February 11, 2007, at 20:20:10
In reply to Re: Transference in real life, posted by cubic_me on February 8, 2007, at 9:57:32
> It's not a skill I used to have! I used to be just like you, and have fantasies etc. TBH it's easier now, because my tutors change every 4weeks, so I've got less time to get attached! I can't really distance myself emotionally, so I have to do it physically, by recognising it's starting to happen and just 'not going there' and not creating any situations that would make me be near/in contact with them. I spend a lot of time telling myself they're just a normal, average person, and there's nothing special about them, which seems to help me stop idolising them too.
That is so great, cubic_me. I wish I could do that. Actually, my T and I are working on changing my behaviors and thoughts to be more in line with what you do. I hope that it works, but it requires some strength. You have to give up the high feeling of infatuation.
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> No, I didn't (when I did have transference, with my first therapist). I've only been with my current T for a month, and our relationship seems to be more 'normal' (code for less transference!!!) so far.That's great too, good luck with your therapy!
Allison
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