Posted by ElaineM on February 7, 2007, at 19:48:20
In reply to Re: The Next big Step :-) = update » ElaineM, posted by philyra on February 5, 2007, at 14:34:13
>>>>>I wonder if a part of your T actually really wants you to encourage him to increase his sessions and do the work that he needs to do around his feelings and conduct toward you.
I don't know. But he has said he started, and continued, to go because it was important to me. He hasn't told me if he's decided about increasing yet. So I don't know. I've pushed for the increased frequency even before his T suggested it, so maybe he will. I'll have to see. But maybe it's true that it's easier for him to do all this if it's in response to a request, and not from a need within himself - less threatening somehow. I'm just guessing here though.
We have talked about how difficult it is for him to officially switch sides. Be in the patient's chair when he's with his therapist. He's not used to be the one exposing themself. Maybe it was easier to do it with me first, cause I was only a friend and not someone above him. Not sure.
>>>> think you're serving some pretty big needs for him in terms of his journey...Maybe this is the case with all therapeutic relationships, it's just a difference of boundaries...
Sounds like Jung or something.
I just want to end up helping more than I hurt.
thanks for the words Philyra.
blove El
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