Posted by toojane on January 27, 2007, at 11:12:16
In reply to Friends are confusing., posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 0:10:51
> "I think therapy is making you a thousand times worse. You need to stop going, stop thinking about the past and stop over-analyzing everything."
I think people who talk like this haven't got a clue. It isn't that they are purposefully being hurtful, they simply are obtuse.If it were as easy as "stop thinking about the past" I'm positive you would have done that already. The solutions to most problems seem very simple on the surface...
If you are anorexic, eat
If you have OCD, stop washing your hands
If you agoraphobic, go outside
If you are schizophrenic, stop hallucinating
If you have PTSD, stop having flashbacksThe real problem is HOW to do those things.
I am plagued by terrifying nightmares that make it impossible to sleep. The obvious solution is to stop having nightmares but HOW do I make myself stop dreaming?
Your therapist knows much more about you and your problem than your friend does. Unless she has some miraculous method for erasing the past, with instructions that are a bit more detailed than just stop thinking about it, I wouldn't put too much weight in her opinion.
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