Posted by mair on January 27, 2007, at 11:02:38
In reply to Friends are confusing., posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 0:10:51
Daisy - I can't add alot either. I do think you should call your T if you continue to be upset about this. I agree with Dinah - I don't think he'd want you struggling with this all weekend on your own.
I had a somewhat similar experience although not anywhere near as awful as yours because the person who made the comment didn't know that I have depression, so it wasn't directed at me. One night my husband and I were having dinner with 3 or three other couples, all of whom are social friends, but not necessarily close. We were talking about somethig very negative, although now I can't remember what it was. One woman, who is a therapist, made some comment like "God it would be almost as bad as living with a depressed person if you can imagine that." And then she made this face and literally, physically shuddered!
I go through periods when I think that I must be so awful to live with and I think I was in one of those periods then. And what instantly occurred to me was that my T probably felt the same way as this friend, and that whatever she said about how she didn't think I dragged my family down and more importantly, about how much she liked me and enjoyed working with me, were all big huge lies.
I know how much your friend's comments sting, because the far more innocuous comments made by my friend, now years ago, still sting when I think about them.
mair
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