Posted by madeline on January 27, 2007, at 7:33:08
In reply to Friends are confusing., posted by Daisym on January 27, 2007, at 0:10:51
I have a lot of friends like that - the ones that feel the need to tell the "truth" the way they see it - whether or not I elicit their opinion.
I used to be very "put off" by them, as I was absolutely convinced that I was right - my path the only true way and, as a friend, they were to agree with me.
But now, I really value their input, if for no other reason than it is a pair of fresh eyes on the problem. I don't have to agree, but they are nice to have around.
Ultimately we decide what we do, but friends can certainly help us to examine our motives, see a different perspective and potentially open a different frame of mind we didn't know was there.
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now and I'm glad you are reaching out to people. I think in her own little way, your friend was reaching back.
Take good care of yourself.
Maddie
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