Posted by gardenergirl on October 5, 2006, at 20:39:02
In reply to Re: projective identification, posted by alexandra_k on October 5, 2006, at 19:40:53
> because... they don't off balance me. they don't understand me. because... i'm smarter than them. i feel bad saying that. because they don't off balance me i just go from defence to defence to defence and i don't seem to be able to break out of that by myself. it isn't working. it isn't going to work. and that is why.
I understand this. The knowledge of it and the feeling bad about it. And how shameful it can feel when you are smart and yet also need someone's help, but not just anyone's. It's real, alex. It's not a shameful or arrogant thing about you. It's a strength. A gift.
And
It makes it much more difficult for you as far as therapy is concerned. I wish it didn't. And I know I'm blessed to have the T that I do. I've tried to work with a couple of others in the past, but I knew what I was "supposed to" say or I knew what they were doing, and it didn't work.
What can help counter the intellectual piece is if you can get in a situation where you can just sort of sink into it. Submerge, surrender, and let go. But that takes incredible trust, and it takes time. But I wish that for you, very much.
> i don't look down on her. i really don't think i do.I don't hear that in your words. And I've experienced a very kind, caring alex, so I believe you.
(((((alex))))))
gg
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