Posted by muffled on September 30, 2006, at 19:17:27
In reply to way back last Friday, posted by ElaineM on September 30, 2006, at 18:10:37
oh El, you said that so beautifully and kindly.
He comes across as just hurting and broken and not dangerous, but KNOWING he is wrong, but seemingly unable to do anything about it.
If he was just a guy and you said this, I would proly tell you (like I SO smart- NOT) but anyways, I DO think he is in need of professional help. He obvo. has deeply troubling issues. You cannot do a whole lot to help him other than letting him CLEARLY know what your personal boundaries are, amd sticking to them. Other than that you can just be a friend, stop playing the T game. He truly is not your T. He is a hurting person who is a friend. I think if you are clear and he is willing to stick to the boundaries, that you could have a friendship.
I just don't know how stable he is, as far as being able to understand and keep to your set boundaries.
It almost sounds as if he is out of control and trying to tell you that.
I do not necc. think his pain is greater, but mebbe different than yours.
It is SO hard to see someone in pain.
But he CAN get help I hope.
He needs it.
I guess mebbe it harder in some ways when your 'in the business', to admit you need help, I dunno.
So maybe you can get him to seek help.
HE NEEDS TO. I dunno how you can make him do that. Or help him along somehow?
Please keep yourself safe.
I think he care's for you.
But I thinks he's even afraid of himself :-(
Thats not a good feeling at all.
And its real, and can be dangerous.
I been kinda in a bit of a muddle myself lately, so I may be way off base....
Take care,
Muffled
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