Posted by Daisym on July 8, 2006, at 10:47:46
In reply to Re: child abuse - *warning* giving up?, posted by Jost on July 7, 2006, at 20:27:01
I want to echo what everyone else said. It took me forever to talk about stuff. Relief could come from her permission to just let it go for awhile. She said she would wait. That is huge.
Suffering alone though can be a learned behavior that needs a little push. I like the idea of taking a small part and talking about that. Like, what color where the walls? And sometimes telling the stories in a dead way is just working up to telling them in other ways. Go slow and be kind and gentle to yourself.
I also like the idea of talking about why you can't let go and just cry. Are you afraid you will never stop? (Biologically impossible.) Are you afraid she will get annoyed that you aren't stopping? (highly unlikely.) Your tears can't hurt her. And she won't hurt you because you cry them.
I wish I had the magic answer. But you are doing such hard work, just showing up each time. I'm proud of you for that.
love and hugs,
Daisy
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