Posted by Dinah on July 7, 2006, at 14:24:09
In reply to child abuse - *warning* giving up?, posted by frida on July 7, 2006, at 13:43:28
I don't really have any expertise in this, but it seems to me that putting pressure on yourself to do something before you're ready won't make it come faster. While leaving yourself open to the experience, and accepting that at this moment you aren't quite there yet, leaves the opportunity open without the demand. If that makes any sense.
My therapist once told me that he realized he was trying to change me, and that no one changed unless they were accepted as they were. He left it open for me to change if that happened, but made it ok for me to be where I was, if that's what I needed to do. Maybe the same thing holds true for pressure from ourselves to change.
So Frida, there are probably very good reasons why it's hard for you to let go and do what you want to do so desperately. And you can give yourself loving permission to stay at this stage for as long as you need to, until you're ready to move on to the next stage.
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