Posted by Tamar on June 19, 2006, at 5:51:27
In reply to Re: I'm afraid » Frida, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 1:57:37
> I think fate handed me a lesson. I used to get rather impatient with the women who appeared to put up with just about anything with the comment "but I loooove him". And now I'm one of them.
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> Except I've started to wonder if I'm correct in thinking I'm putting up with a lot.That's what those women think too. They don't think they're putting up with a lot. It can't really be as bad as they think. It can't really be as bad as everyone else says. Eventually they lose the self esteem to walk away.
It is possible for those relationships to change. But the man has to be prepared to take a long hard look at his behaviour. And then he has to make a concerted effort to do things differently. And he can't usually do it on his own: he needs therapy.
I think your therapist needs therapy.
Just my two cents.
Tamar
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