Posted by happyflower on June 18, 2006, at 17:43:54
In reply to As could be expected., posted by Dinah on June 18, 2006, at 12:28:23
Man, what is wrong with your T? This is not what I expected from him at all. It seems like his personal life and professional life must be struggling, to act so unresponsible. There is no excuse for him this time.
You know I think it is questionable on how he would schdeule the 2nd appointment, by you waiting until the last minute for when and sometimes if. This seems unprofressional to me in the least. Part of therapy is being able to count on your appointments accuring with regular frequentcy that you can count on. He should in the very least tell you when the 2nd appointment will be on the Sunday of the week you see him. Heck for me it seems like you should know at least a week ahead of time.
I just don't know what to say, because it is just sad that this is happening. I wonder how many clients he has lost this year due to his behavior, maybe that is why he needed more money for the 2nd job. You know for anyone else who takes on a 2nd job, the 1st emoployer doesn't mind as long as it doesn't interfer with your main job. Well he isn't putting his main job first and allowing the 2nd job to affect his main job in a negative way.
Have you ever thought about writing him a heart felt letter and telling him everything? So he can't interupt you and you can say things in the way you want? This is something I would try as a last resort. Maybe he can "listen" without getting so defensive in a way that hurts you. I think anyone can get a little defensive when they are being told that they aren't doing a good job. But in a letter he would have time to think about what you have said, and get over his emotions of guilt and maybe be the T he can be for you.
As far as how do you let go if you deceide to . I don't know, I don't handle goodbyes very well, I tend to screw up the relationship before the departure so it will hurt less. But it usually hurts me more. Maybe like Fairywings said, do something special with your son instead. I know my kids have been getting less of me since i have been in therapy. Mabye they are gettinga better me, but they do have less time with me.
Dinah, what other stuff did you say to him that you think Dr. Bob wouldn't approve of? You don't have to say or just hint at what the subject was.
Maybe you both need to take a separation from each other, like a month or so. I think he needs some therapy at the momement. Maybe he doesn't since he has been doing it for so long , like my T , but I think they do need it from time to time. (((((Dinah)))) Please keep posting , we are here for you.
Hugs,
Happyflower
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