Posted by Dinah on June 12, 2006, at 17:29:40
In reply to Re: ((((((((((((Tamar))))))))))) » Dinah, posted by Tamar on June 12, 2006, at 17:05:18
> Yeah. I guess the problem is that words have failed to do it so far. I’ve tried lots of different words but they haven’t worked.
Yeah, I understand. It seems like I've tried being direct, and I've tried being bad, and I've tried covering up, and nothing really gets through, except maybe to my husband - and then not in the way I would wish.
My therapist says the right things. But he also encourages me to continue to try to meet my obligations at work, because doing that pays his bill (she says cynically).
And I can't seem to yell loudly enough to anyone that "I AM AT THE LIMITS OF WHAT I CAN DO! I HAVE TO STOP NOW!" And no matter how many times I say it politely, no one seems to hear.
I can be as understanding as I like about the reasons, but that only works at brain level.
I don't know if you're trying to yell the same thing, but I do know it's infuriating when no one hears what you're saying.
My therapist scratched me off his calendar once for a scheduled phone appointment and failed to inform me. It hurts, doesn't it? No matter how much we try to explain it away to ourselves, it hurts.
Why can't caring always be symmetrical?
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