Posted by happyflower on November 7, 2005, at 11:36:46
In reply to Re: My feelings » happyflower, posted by Tamar on November 7, 2005, at 11:13:53
> > I don’t think it’s necessarily inappropriate for your therapist to ask if you’ve thought of having affairs with other men. Perhaps he’s challenging you to think about your commitment to your marriage and whether you would seriously consider getting sex elsewhere since you’re not getting it at home.
What you are saying is the way I took the questions. I didn't feel they were wrong to ask, maybe a little nosy, but I am the one who brought up that my thoughts were going elsewhere about other people because I am missing the closenss of sex and caring. This was part of the conversation where we were talking about my marriage problems.
I just kinda feel my posts about this is upsetting people or giving them false hope about their own T's. So I thought maybe I shouldn't talk about this here. What do you think? There seems to be some very strong opinions about this topic.
All I know is what I feel in my heart, and I don't feel him having feelings for me are one sided. I think we have mutual feelings for each other. I don't know where he stands in his marriage and I don't know if he feels about me as strongly in the same way. Or if he did, will he let himself act on it.
Today I saw him at the gym, and we do have a special chemsistry with each other and I can tell how he smiles at me he really likes me. Maybe this is all that will become of it, and I think I will be okay with it. I am not letting myself get too carried away, because I am afraid of getting hurt. I am just going to take it slowly and see what happens.
I think you are right that I will have to make the first move, because if he did, he would be risking a lot, if I didn't feel the same way. Right now I am enjoying his company and flirting . You have to admit, who doesn't like to be noticed and liked? It feels good, I can't help it. I do feel these are real feeling, not projections of somebody else. I wish he wasn't so cute, it might make it easier! LOL Thanks Tamar, I value your advice. :)
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