Posted by fallsfall on November 4, 2005, at 22:53:17
In reply to How would it make you feel if your T said that, posted by happyflower on November 4, 2005, at 18:46:20
Happyflower,
It does sound like the boundaries are blurring a bit. And that usually isn't helpful for the therapy.
Having the session go over is not a good sign - particularly since the reason was that you were chatting.
I know that it feels wonderful when you feel like you are getting to really know the person who is your therapist, but it really can be hurtful to the patient and hurt the therapy.
I don't know what I would do if I were in your situation (probably sit back and enjoy it!!!), but I think that the "safe" thing to do would be to mention the next time you talk to him (either at the gym or at your next session) that the boundaries seem to be blurring a little and that you think that the two of you should talk about that a bit.
You had a lot of confusion about whether you wanted him to come to your concert or not. I'm afraid that seeing him as a peer at the gym might generate a lot more confusion.
That said, I don't know that I could do what I suggest if it were me.
Please be careful.
Falls.
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