Posted by happyflower on October 7, 2005, at 10:31:07
In reply to Re: Next topic for therapy-My abusive life cycle » happyflower, posted by Tamar on October 7, 2005, at 7:38:55
Hi Tamar,
Yes, we talked about all of this in therapy over and over again. LOL The main thing is why is he not involved in our marriage. It is hard to get him to open up if he is refusing to. But if this continues my T said it is time to start getting a little harder on him and maybe I might get answers that I don't want to hear and I need to prepare myself for that. Be this has to be faces at one time or another. He needs either to get into therapy, either indivdial, or couple therapy, or see a medical doctor if there is somthing physically wrong like depression. But he has refused all of this.
So it all comes down to me and what I am willing to put up with. Can I live with being married to emotionally and physially absent marriage. There are other issues too, like financial, and of course my kids. They adore their father.
I am kinds of stuck in a hard place and since my DH isn't changing, it is up to me to start getting demanding on him to get some help. I know all of this, and I am sort of hoping he will snap out of this, whatever it is.So my T is helping me deal with my rejected feelings that I have and gently guiding me on advice on how to confront him. I also am starting to pull away from him. I am tired of being hurt and rejected. So I guess I am hanging in there. I want my marriage to work. I miss my husband, I miss a lot of things that I had with him. :(
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