Posted by gardenergirl on September 16, 2005, at 8:02:39
In reply to Re: Update...next session was weird » gardenergirl, posted by Annierose on September 9, 2005, at 15:33:48
> Hi GG -
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> Give yourself double pats on the back. That was hard to say, but doesn't it feel so good to have said it, and be warmly received?You betcha. And then of course I bailed, but okay, it's a process, right? :)
>
> This is exactly what I was getting at a few weeks back in a post to you. While writing to you, I remember this thought popped into my head: that it's hard to be so vulnerable in therapy, cry (the type when you can hardly breathe) and not be comforted by a hug, that I feel so alone.I was remembering that post, and some things that Racer said to me recently when I was struggling, and thinking about what you two said helped me figure out what was going on in that session. So give yourself double pats on the back, too! Thank you for helping me find the courage to figure it out and then say something.
> After writing this to you, I did bring up this conversation in therapy, in a round about way, as only I can do when I'm trying to avoid what I really want to say. She replied, "But you are not alone. I'm here with you." She went on that although she cannot hug me, she understands how those boundaries seemingly duplicate the coldness from my mother. But she was there, understood why I would want a hug, and said a bunch of other suff that I completely forget at the moment.
Wow, what a great moment, and good for you for bringing it up. I really like your T!
>((((annierose))))
gg
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