Posted by fairywings on September 9, 2005, at 8:19:53
In reply to projection and boredom » JenStar, posted by gardenergirl on September 8, 2005, at 23:22:48
> > I'm still a bit confused by his response. Did he admit he WAS bored, and say that it was your fault for not talking about interesting-enough things?
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> No, that's not what he was saying. He admitted his attention had just wandered, . I think what he meant by saying "if boredom is present than the more interesting stuff is being repressed" was that it's perhaps kind of diagnostic for a therapist to realize they might be feeling bored. They can ask themselves what's going on or NOT going on that they are not their usual attentive self. And if something's repressed, I don't think he views that as the client's "fault".I was confused by this too. That's really interesting. I wonder if all T's would think if they were bored the client's repressing feelings? Or if some would think that if they're bored, "gee, this person sure is boring!" LOL Seemed like my last T couldn't wait to get to the end of 40 minutes! This one actually makes me feel like what I have to say is important, and goes over, which is his normal style.
So, did you take a risk and tell him your longings and that you were feeling rejected? That would sure feel like a leap to me! Whew! I can see how, if you have a stable, even tempered, normal therapist, who is logical and rational, and always "there for you", that you can try to make them into the parent you never had and always wished you had. That's seems like a pretty normal thing to do unconsciously, and before you know it, it could be consuming for at least one person.
So did you and your T get that worked out gg? Is he back to being T, and you're back to being comfortable with him in the T role, and not the father/parent role? I sure would like a mom/dad, but I'm too old for that! ; )
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