Posted by shrinking violet on September 15, 2005, at 19:22:19
In reply to Re: sending letter to ex-t --- good or bad idea? » shrinking violet, posted by orchid on September 14, 2005, at 1:19:32
Hi Orchid,
Thank you for your reply.
I don't really "expect" anything from my T, one way or the other. I do have hope though, which is arguably more dangerous. I think I may write the letter and see how I feel then.
Thanks again.
SV
> After abrupt termination, it is inevitable that you would have the need to contact your ex T a few times.
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> But how each therapist responds to post termination contact seems to vary a lot. Mine didn't write even a one line email after termination. It was very cold and abrupt, which I didn't expect and wasn't prepared for. But I have recovered from it mostly, and it doesn't hurt that much anymore. I have somehow regained back a warm feeling towards him. I think that is inevitable given the help our Ts give us. But don't expect friendships. I did write maybe about 5 times after termination, one of them a pretty angry and hurt letter at his bad handling, and of course he didn't reply to that either. But it did help me get some sort of closure in my mind. So you can write to get things out of your mind, but don't expect a reply. In case she replies with a warm letter, it will help you. but even otherwise, I think going to a new therapist will help you immensely to move forward
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> Take Care SV.
> - Orchid.
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