Posted by JenStar on August 25, 2005, at 0:18:29
In reply to Re: Yesterday a part came in therapy:( » ClearSkies, posted by kerria on August 24, 2005, at 21:15:36
hi Kerria,
I was thinking about the comments from your T along the lines of "if you don't like my style, you can see someone else." People usually say something like that, in my experience, when they're frustrated or feeling manipulated. Or they might say it if they're getting severe push-back, or if agreed-upon expectations are not being met.Do you think your T could be feeling any of those things? Is it something you could bring up with him? Clearly the comments have hurt you very much. It seems that it might be useful to talk to him about his comments and exactly WHY he said them. I mean, I was just hypothesizing about what I'd infer from such a statement, but I don't know him -- he could mean anything! But I think it's important to find out. And if he's a bad T, or not helping you at all, it might be time to move on. But if you're at a difficult impasse in therapy, sticking with him through the rough patch and trying to do it "his way" might in the end be extremely fruitful and might be helpful...
IN any case, I'm sorry you're hurting. Take care.
JenStar
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