Posted by alexandra_k on August 19, 2005, at 18:44:47
In reply to Re: Attachment » alexandra_k, posted by All Done on August 19, 2005, at 3:19:57
> My mom pulls everyone around her and she pulls very hard. As soon as we're where she supposedly wants us, she pushes everyone away. She has no idea what she does to the people around her.
yeah. my mother was like that too.
Except... I couldn't figure out a push-pull pattern. I never could figure out what mood she was going to be in. It was always considered to be my fault, but I couldn't understand what I had done.my emotions blow hot and cold :-(
I don't know why
I can't figure out a pattern
but i think i do the same
sometimes i pull because i need to feel close
and othertimes i push because i feel that people are too close, invasive
i don't understand why the change
i know it hurts other people
thats part of why i used to hide from them
because i didn't want to hurt them
but knew that if they got to know me...
it would be inevitable
> And everything is always about her only. How was I supposed to attach to someone who really had no idea what I needed or wanted? She never bothered to learn. Now, I find myself craving that sort of attention, but I'm afraid to ask for anything.
> How does it all get so twisted?i don't know.
i'm sorry :-(
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