Posted by fairywings on August 20, 2005, at 20:45:20
In reply to Attachment, posted by alexandra_k on August 18, 2005, at 18:44:14
This attachment thing is confusing to me. Is it just our mom that was crucial to our attachments? My mother was loving and devoted as far as everyone could see, and lots of times she was, but when I was young, she didn't ever stand up for me or validate my feelings, she'd withdraw her love, stuff like that. When I was a teen ager she had a weird attachment to me, needed me to need her because my dad was having an affair, she didn't want me to be strong and leave her. When I went to college and got married, there were times when it seemed she couldn't stand it that I was happy, and other times when she was happy for me. I couldn't even begin to diagnose her because for the most part she was pretty strong, but lashed out a lot, usually at me.
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