Posted by Damos on August 23, 2005, at 17:12:34
In reply to Re: Attachment, posted by alexandra_k on August 23, 2005, at 2:07:30
> Oh Damos you are doing so well, I hope I can get there with my mother... maybe one day. it is hard. but what you say makes a lot of sense...
Really I'm not. If it hadn't been for reading the posts on this thread I probably wouldn't have realised that I had to let go of some bad stuff to have space for there to be a chance of there being good stuff. Oh yeah, can I quote you regards my making a lot of sense, it'd be a first?
> focusing on her bad qualities is only upsetting to me because i do resemble her a lot... but there are good qualities too. sometimes... sometimes they would shine through. not so much with me i guess but with other people.That was something that struck me. I was always hearing from others that he was this and that, and I was like 'who is this bloke they see, I don't see that.' So I decided to try and see the possibility of those things.
> and im different too. because i have a little help with trying to understand. and... though i tend to do this at times (eg with harry potter) she reads everything at such a rapid rate of knotts so none of it really sinks in. i have that tendancy too but i think ive learned to focus my attention a little more.Yes, and you have the same things that I described. The awareness of the hurtful behaviour and the ability through that awareness to consciously choose not to repeat/replay it. You have more strength than you give yourself credit for. You are getting there, little by little. You did really well with the last p-doc thing, bit wobbly but overall okay and better than before. You've been having a pretty rough ride the last week or so, but you haven't crashed, you've held on and some more little bits of okayness made it through. I'm really proud of you.
Just think of it this way; if you're standing in a dark house with a torch, ,you can't light up every room or even every corner of one room at the same time.
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