Posted by annierose on August 3, 2005, at 17:51:39
In reply to Re: saw a new T today, posted by Jadah on August 3, 2005, at 16:44:40
Jadah -
WOW! That's great!! It is a very hard thing to do, but you took the first step AND told her about the other T all on the first appointment. That's a lot!! Way to go!!
I think your 3 sessions is a good rule of thumb. It's gives you both a chance to get to know one another. It would bug me too if my T talked over me, but maybe this is such an unusual situation, she just had a lot of questions.
Don't feel you are the one betraying ... who is the married person in this triangle and who is the therapist calling the shots? He is the one who has betrayed both his wife and his client. I am not judging you. It is a very seductive situation, and I can imagine how those feelings might develop. (I see a female T, so I my love for her is one of admiration).
I'm glad you are posting again. You are wise not to try to "replace" him. People are not interchangeable. But with time and a good T, maybe you'll be able to see him in a different light. I think this is a HUGE step in the right direction. You need to start living your life for you.
Annierose
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