Posted by Susan47 on July 27, 2005, at 23:54:59
In reply to Re: Can someone Re-Direct?, posted by Jadah on July 27, 2005, at 20:27:14
I think, if your therapist had real courage, intelligence, and concern for himself, his wife, and you, he'd agree to go into therapy with you. To resolve the whole thing. But it would take an exceptional person to be able to do that, after messing things up so badly for everybody. Can you see how the two of you in therapy together would be a good thing? Therapy is supposed to be confidential, and he'd be getting help, and I'm wondering if he is telling you the whole truth, because certainly he knows his career is on the line, here. If he doesn't support you now, he must realize that an angry woman can make a formidable opponent. I'm sorry, I just can't seem to get my mind around this. It's a huge mess, and I feel badly for you. I have a hard time believing his wife treats him as badly as he indicates; if he's a therapist, why isn't he getting therapy for himself and his wife to resolve it? If he loves her, how can he do this to her? If he does this to her, isn't it possible he could do it to you as well? How balanced is this man? He doesn't seem particularly good therapist material if he can let himself get this messed up, without going for help. Doesn't he believe in therapy?
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