Posted by cricket on July 14, 2005, at 12:42:23
In reply to Parts coming out in therapy, posted by kerria on July 14, 2005, at 0:41:42
Yes, Kerria I know exactly what you are talking about.
For the past year, it has been really bad for me. I'd have these internal fights going on while I was in therapy and I'd be switching like crazy and one part would slip out and say something and that would upset another part so that part would start crying and then another part would get angry. My therapist knew that I was switching and that there were all these conflicts but he didn't know who or what or why. So he was getting frustrated because he couldn't help and I would get more and more scared and hate some of the parts even more because I was certain that they were going to make me lose my therapist.
Then a couple of months ago, we decided to try to give each part a session just to use as they wanted. It was difficult and other parts still shouted and sometimes interrupted but not so much, maybe because they knew that they would have a session of their own too. And it had some difficult moments that I had to work through with them on my own.
But somehow then something changed. I was calmer and it was easier for them to talk. Even my therapist confirmed last session that since we've been letting them have their time I am a different person. Playful, curious, "like a young girl" he said - not sure what that means.
But the problem is now I feel more lonely and alone than I ever have. I watch other people (particularly women my age) and feel completely alien as if I've just been dropped from another planet.
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