Posted by alexandra_k on July 12, 2005, at 20:33:37
In reply to For JenStar and Alex, posted by pinkeye on July 12, 2005, at 20:18:41
Some people like to surround themselves with people who make the person feel better about themself. I'm not suggesting that your friend is like this. I'm just saying that quite a lot of people do this. Even if someone thinks they are better than you (which they aren't) then they might still like spending time with you if you ooh and aah and make the right noises and appear to be suitably impressed.
> Maybe it is some self esteem problem..
I think it is definately a self-esteem problem.
>But it is really hard to live with all these high fi group of people. IT is really really hard.. especially if you are not one of them.
And its that that makes me think that that is the problem. You are determined to compare yourself to them on things where you come up short. You are determined to see them as better than you.
How about trying to come up with a list of qualities that you have that your friend doesn't have to such an extent.
You have already noticed that she has a pressurised environment with respect to $$$. Thats got to impact on her marriage too.
I wouldn't be happy under that much pressure :-(
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