Posted by sunny10 on May 17, 2005, at 8:59:40
In reply to Re: ask yourself this... » 10derHeart, posted by pinkeye on May 13, 2005, at 21:37:50
just a quick one- don't make excuses for him.
I have very recently gone through a very terrifying violently ended argument with my SO.
I can UNDERSTAND what led him to do what he did- but ultimately, HE is responsible for making sure it never happens again. I have already told him that I WILL NOT continue trying to make this relationship work unless he goes into anger management therapy and gets to the bottom of his own issues. Their issues ARE NOT OURS TO FIGURE OUT OR TO FIX.
They belong to our violent men and they MUST be dealt with or WE HAVE TO LEAVE THEM. There are plenty of shelters that would help you if you need the help. Remember one thing. Wherever you go; there you are. For your husband- if he takes you back to India, he will still be the same man. A change in scenery does not change the man.
Period.
Oh, and one more thing... please tell your parents what is happening.
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