Posted by Dinah on May 17, 2005, at 20:50:03
In reply to But I have nowhere else to go » Dinah, posted by pinkeye on May 17, 2005, at 20:39:53
Well, that could use some brainstorming.
You're ok financially. You're ok living here, in fact you want to. Would your family disown you if you divorced?
But you feel you need to be married, and wouldn't be happy living alone. And you feel that you need to marry an Indian man, who wouldn't feel free to marry a divorcee. You wouldn't be happy being married to a man who wasn't of your religion? Is that Hindu or Buddhist? Would an American man who embraced Buddhism be acceptable?
I take it you aren't like me. If I hadn't met a guy like my husband, I'd have been a perfectly happy spinster.
How old are you now? How old would you feel you needed to be married by?
Do you want to have kids? Do you want to have them with this man? I can assure you that kids will not be as careful of your husband as you are being. Will it be ok to you if he hits them? Will he consider that acceptable? What if you stay with him, but don't have kids? Would that be ok with you?
Just throwing out questions so that I can get a better idea of where you are at in your thinking.
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