Posted by pinkeye on May 13, 2005, at 15:51:47
In reply to Re: Can I ask you all something? **trigger** » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on May 13, 2005, at 5:00:20
> I don’t often think of myself as a woman. Sometimes I think of myself as being a bit like a child, and sometimes I think of myself as a person (gender neutral). I only think of myself as a woman when I’m thinking politically.
I think of myself as a child LOT of times. But I always want to be a woman - never gender neutral. That makes me feel very uncomfortable.
And I really liked what you have said below here.. That is true about the fact that being a woman is more defined as "not being a man". I guess lot of my problems came from that.. In my family circle at that time, "Not being a man" was defined as being weak, and thin, and meek, and be able to cook and be affectionate towards everyone and not talk against anyone. In fact lot of my cousins had to stop studying because their parents were afriad they will become too brainy. My father was exceptional in that way. But he could have taught me a more right way of being a person - I think he rebelled against this idea of woman in general, and instead brought me up more like a man in the beginning - not allowing me to dress, not allowing me to learn cooking, always asking me to study, and I guess he wanted to bring me up as a strong and good owman, but ended up confusing me even more.
I am not sure about men needing more sex than woman and about prostitutes and stuff. I think men do need more sex than woman in general.. and I do not agree on prostitution.. So I think I have to differ here. But I do know being a prostitute doesn't make you a bad person - it is just so very hard for me to imagine that a woman can do it as a profession. I cannot have sex with anyone I am not emotionally connected to.
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