Posted by pinkeye on May 1, 2005, at 14:59:15
In reply to Re: How do I forgive » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on May 1, 2005, at 14:00:30
That makes lot of sense. To be angry at his actions without hating him. I guess I never understood the difference so far. That is why I kind of kept on trying to defend him.
And it also makes sense about the grieving - rather than the anger. That is an easier emotion for me to feel.
Lots of times, we are hurt the most - not by life and other circumstances, but by the people who are closest to us. It is funny thing about life, that those who are supposed to care and protect us the most, end up hurting us the most without even realizing it. That is what your dad has done for you also.. and that is what my dad did to me too. I simply would have grown up perfectly well, if he didn't go that extra mile and tried to do things for me - make me learn by punishing etc.
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