Posted by tom_traubert on May 3, 2005, at 0:45:37
In reply to How do I forgive, posted by pinkeye on April 29, 2005, at 18:33:09
Do Not Forgive That Action.
You know, some things are unforgivable damnit, and that's the way it is.
But you can Understand, and that's the progress.
I'd like to suggest something that has helped me in the past in terms of releasing anger: unsent letters.
The idea is that you sit down and write a letter that youknow you will never send or show to the person you are addressing. this is very important: you can NEVER show the letter to anyone, for 2 reasons: 1:if you think someone else might see it, you'll hold back 2:if someone else sees it, they will be unnecessarily hurt.The whole idea is to just let loose and curse and hate and write every exaggerated vile thought that comes to mind--EVEN IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IT--the point is not for logic, it is a platform for anger. Say the worst things, let it flow. It can be quite powerful. It's weird at first, you feel silly, as if someone's looking over your shoulder, but if you start a blank page with "Dear Dad," and start writiing, you'll be amazed how much comes out. Don't be scared of the anger either, it's just words, and you tear it up after youre done. don't judge what you write, just write, let anger come out. Often times, you'll read back over and realize that you really don't feel these things to this degree, but it was good to let out what the anger was feeling. (I hope that makes sense)
I hope this is something that might help you. When I first did it, I wrote out 6 pages worth of pure black hellfire. It's good, it's cathartic, it's safe, and it's really actually a simple idea.
hope this helps,
tt
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