Posted by Dinah on April 29, 2005, at 12:54:05
In reply to T. Referred to My Younger Self?! (extrememly long), posted by 10derHeart on April 28, 2005, at 23:58:09
I think it's fair to open your mind to it and give it consideration, then decide whether or not it's something that "fits". The important thing to me would be that your therapist was open and receptive and empathetic. Whether what he proposed fits entirely with you or not is something you can pursue together.
I think most people recognize feelings and viewpoints that originate in childhood and stay with them to adulthood. The degree to which they are separate probably varies from person to person. But even if your "little 10der" is not that distinct, you can still nurture the feelings that arise from that aspect of yourself.
I don't think your therapist did anything wrong per se. What he said could have a range of meanings. I'm not sure we're as suggestible as some theoreticians believe. My concept of myself never changed much in therapy, and never fit the model of having a number of different age states, or many alters. It's always been the single divide with me, that may include differences in internal age image, but don't center completely on them.
The fact that it brought up strong feelings in you probably means it's worth exploration. Just don't go in with any preconcieved ideas about what it means to have a "little 10der" or that it's impossible for you to have younger states.
Oooh, there's something about that in Eastern philosophy, but I can't retrieve it. Something about going in with no preconceptions but a strong position of interested enquiry.
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