Posted by daisym on February 6, 2005, at 22:04:26
In reply to Re: Childhood protection » daisym, posted by littleone on February 6, 2005, at 21:02:44
((((LittleOne)))
I've said everything you wrote down. How could no one see? I was painfully shy, completely parentified and I even had an illness that could only have come from ONE thing...*sigh* I guess people only want to see what they need to see. It is really hard to understand all of it.
One really important moment for me in therapy was when little daisy come out really, really strongly and asked my therapist if he would have noticed and if he would have "told." It was one of those moments -- the room narrowed and it was just him and her. He said "yes, I would have told." She responded, "so many people would have gotten in trouble...then what?" He said, "We pick up the pieces." It was a defining moment.
I hope you can find this with your therapist, or you can find one who can meet this need for you. It takes courage to begin to talk about it. And I think it takes frequency of contact. I don't think I could get it open and keep it open if I was only able to talk about it one time per week. And I really believe that you must be working with someone who knows how to draw you out, help you hold stuff and gives you explicit permission to reexperience it all.
It isn't easy. Babble helps a lot. I hope you keep sharing.
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