Posted by littleone on February 3, 2005, at 22:01:11
In reply to Your Self » littleone, posted by Shortelise on February 2, 2005, at 15:18:07
> You could grow, learn to understand things about yourself, and where those things came from. I believe it's only when we are comfortable in our understanding of ourselves that we can start trying to understand others.
I guess I'm kind of working on self and others at the same time. Like I have a problem with A and it shows up in my life as B and I can see that this is because C happened when I was younger and that my parents acted the way they did because of D. Kind of fitting it all together as I go along.
> I think it's **unfair** to ask ourselves to have insight into the people who screwed us up until we've got ourselves in a better place.I think I would find it too overwhelming to uncover and understand my childhood without understanding why my parents acted like they did. Without understanding my parents' whys, I think I would hurl into a dark and ugly pit of blame and anger and hurt and cling to a victim mentality.
But then, the other side of the coin is that I am thinking instead of feeling. I was *too* successful in cutting off my feelings when I was younger. It's kind of funny in a way how there are people here immersed in their feelings and I bet some of them would love to cut those feelings off and do the work in their head instead. Therapy is so hard.
> You are doing really hard work right now so please be good to yourself. Be nice to You.You mean this gets easier!?! ;)
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