Posted by daisym on February 2, 2005, at 1:29:37
In reply to My dad, posted by littleone on February 1, 2005, at 15:11:29
It just doesn't feel right that someone you love you also hate, does it?
I think you have more than two choices. You just can't see them yet.
For me, I've split my dad into two people. Who he was before I was 15 and who he is now. I don't understand who he was and why he did what he did. I probably never will. I also don't know (yet) what role I played in allowing everything to happen, how needy was I that this got played out over and over again? But I'm trying to understand it all, and I want a relationship with my dad, I love him. I don't like parts of him, never did, probably never will.
You aren't evil for recognizing the bad things about your dad or for wanting him to change. don't be too hard on yourself.
Hugs from me,
Daisy
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